To Be Friends Or Not To Be Friends.
做朋友或不做朋友
The best secret to raising children isn't what to do, but what not to do. Do not act like their friend. You can be loving, you can be caring, but you are not their "friend, " per se! You are an authority figure, and you must remain thus! Many parents make the mistake of treating their children as if they're friends, which leads to confusion in the child's mind when situations call for discipline. Stay the authoritarian but always exercise law with mercy.
育兒的最大秘訣不在于做什么， 而在于不做什么。別表現(xiàn)得跟他們是朋友似的。你可以表示你的關(guān)愛、關(guān)心， 但就本身而言你不是他們的“朋友”。你是（家庭中的）權(quán)威人物，你得保持如此。很多父母會犯這樣的錯誤：他們以對待朋友的方式來對待孩子，這在一些需要紀律的情況下，會導(dǎo)致孩子頭腦中的混淆。保持權(quán)威狀態(tài)， 但永遠寬容執(zhí)法。
Discipline Is The Cornerstone Of Love And Protection.
紀律是愛和保護的基石
It is important that kids are raised with discipline and that they understand that discipline is a parent's way of showing them that they are loved and deserve to be protected from harm.
紀律在育兒過程中很重要，孩子們明白紀律是父母用于顯示他們是被愛的、值得被保護而免受傷害的方式。
Spend Extra Time With Your Kids.
花額外時間陪伴孩子
The best way to raise kids is to make sure that you spend time with them. This does not mean you have to be their best friend, but just share in their activities. The child will thank you when they are older.
培養(yǎng)孩子最好的方法是一定要花時間和他們在一起。這并不表示你一定得成為他們最好的朋友，只是一同分享活動的樂趣。等孩子長大時，他們會感謝你。
At The End Of The Day You Are Still The Hero.
最終你仍是英雄
When raising kids, remember that no mater how mad they are at you, you are your kids' hero. Act as you would like them to act and do not argue in front of them. Give them a wonderful wold to live in, just like you wanted to
培育孩子時，切記不管他們對你發(fā)多大的脾氣，你是你孩子們的英雄。表現(xiàn)出你希望他們多活動，不要當著他們的面爭吵。給他們一片正如你所期望的精彩的成長天地。
Get Down And Dirty.
親身體驗
Let your children explore and get dirty. They have to find out for themselves that mud is cool and messy.
讓你的孩子們?nèi)ヌ剿?，去體驗，要讓他們自己發(fā)現(xiàn)泥巴是冷且臟的東西。
Use Music To Soothe and Satisfy.
用音樂來撫慰和說服
Expose your baby to music early. Then you can use music for every occasion. It could be used from anything from helping sooth to having a dance party.
讓你的孩子盡早接觸音樂。你可以把音樂用在任何場合。它可以用于任何事，緩解疲勞、辦舞會，等等。
Kids Are 'Little' People Too.
孩子也是“小”人
One of my secrets to raising kids is that I have to remember that they are people too. They are different then me, and not as experienced as me. It is my job to teach them as people.
我育兒的秘訣之一是我必須記住他們也是人。他們是不同的個體，并且沒我這么經(jīng)歷豐富。把他們當大人般地教導(dǎo)是我的職責。
When Parents Are Happy Everybody Is Happy.
父母高興，大家高興
I have a five and seven year old daughters who while they are the light of my life, are a ton of work. I was told by my doctor that the best way to make sure that your kids are happy is to make sure that you are happy. So you need to take time for yourself everyday, even if it seems impossible and even if it is only a few minutes. When you are happy and have energy you will have more love and energy to devote to your children and that will help them everyday.
我有一個五歲和七歲的女兒，盡管她們是我一生的榮耀，但是養(yǎng)育她們卻是頭大的活兒。醫(yī)生告訴我讓你孩子高興的最好辦法就是你自己高興。因此即使不太可能做到或是僅僅幾分鐘，你也要每天留點時間給自己。當你心情愉快充滿能量時，你會投入更多的愛心和精力在孩子們身上，這可以幫助孩子們開心地度過每一天。
Hands On That's The Ticket.
親自動手，正對路
Let them do something hands on. They will love it, and it is proven that kids learn from hands on activities better than other activities. Make it educational too!
讓他們做一些實際操作的事。他們會愛上它，事實證明，實操活動能讓孩子學(xué)得更好。讓它也變得有教育意義。
Offer High Praise When Children Obey Rules.
高度贊揚孩子遵守規(guī)矩的表現(xiàn)
The best way to raising kids is appreciating them when they do something as told in order to make sure they will do everything you say.
培養(yǎng)孩子的最好方法是當他們按要求做事時給予欣賞，這樣你以后說什么，他們都會照做。
One-On-One Makes Kids Feel Special.
一對一讓孩子感覺特別
In my opinion, I think the most important part of raising well-behaved kids is spend one-on-one time with them doing things they enjoy. Every kid needs bonding time with their parents.
在我看來，培育舉止得體的孩子最重要的部分在于花一對一的時間與孩子們做他們喜歡的事。每個孩子都需要與父母聯(lián)絡(luò)感情的時間。
Keep Calm In Every Situation.
在任何場合保持鎮(zhèn)定
One thing that my wife and I have always stuck by is that we stay calm even when situations arise that make us angry/frustrated. If we stay calm our son stays calm to and it makes it easier to solve issues.
我妻子和我始終堅持的一件事是保持鎮(zhèn)定，即便出現(xiàn)了讓我們生氣或沮喪的狀況。如果我們保持鎮(zhèn)靜，我們的兒子就鎮(zhèn)靜，那么也就更容易解決問題。
A 'No' Alternative.
“不”的替代
I never actually say no to my child. I tell them what will happen if they do something and then ask if they still want to do it.
我從未真的對孩子說過不。我只是告訴他們?nèi)绻瞿呈碌脑捄蠊麑⑷绾?，然后我會問他們是否仍舊想做。
Be Attentive And Listen.
專注， 聆聽
Children need to be raised disciplined and with a lot of love. Being attentive shows that you are listening to them and genuinely care about what theya re going through. Your child will feel comfortable talking to you about anything.
孩子的培育需要紀律和大量的關(guān)愛。專注表示你在傾聽他們，并且真正地關(guān)心他們將要經(jīng)歷的。無論跟你談?wù)撌裁?，你的孩子都會很自在?/p>
Volunteering Shows Kids How To Give Back.
志愿活動讓孩子知道如何回報
A few times a year, but especially around the holidays, I take my kids someplace to volunteer. This can be at a soup kitchen or a homeless shelter or, frequently, a nursing home. I aim to instill in them the pleasure of giving. I can see the result on Christmas morning: they are more delighted to give to each other than to receive.
一年總有那么幾次，特別是將近節(jié)假日，我會帶著我的孩子們?nèi)ヒ恍┑胤絽⒓又驹富顒印？赡苁鞘┲鄨?、收養(yǎng)所、或是經(jīng)常去的養(yǎng)老院。我的目的在于灌輸給他們給予的樂趣。在圣誕節(jié)的早晨我看到了成效：彼此之間派送禮物比接收禮物更讓他們欣喜。
Make Chores Fun.
讓家務(wù)變得有趣
I raise my two kids the same way I was raised by my grandma. Kids are full of life and energy and they need an outlet for all of it, so I make sure my kids get enough playtime. Playtime translates into happy kids which in turn translates into respectful kids. They say all play and no work makes Jack a mere toy, so the secret is to incorporate play time in even basic chores; kids in turn will not view chores as work, but rather an activity.
我用我祖母養(yǎng)育我的方式養(yǎng)育我的兩個孩子。孩子們充滿了活力和精力，為此他們需要一個發(fā)泄途徑，于是我給了他們充足的娛樂時間。娛樂時間可以解釋為快樂的孩子，反過來也可解釋為有禮貌的孩子。俗話說只工作不玩耍，聰明杰克也變傻，所以秘訣就是把娛樂時間融入到哪怕是最基本的家務(wù)中。相反孩子們不會把家務(wù)看成是工作，而是一項活動。
Eating Better Makes Kids Happier.
健康飲食讓孩子更快樂
Well, I have to say that when I changed the way my family eats has affected every aspect of my children's life. About 5 years ago I switched to eating primarily whole organic foods and my children seem to be more alert, happy, sleep better and also seem to do better in school. This may sound weird to you but I'm telling you it has made a very big and positive difference in every aspect of raising them easier.
好吧，我不得不說當我改變我家的飲食方式時，孩子們生活的方方面面都受到了影響。大約五年前，我開吃轉(zhuǎn)吃純有機食品，我的孩子們因此而看起來更機敏、快樂、睡得更香，而且學(xué)業(yè)更進步。對你而言，這聽起來可能有點不可思議，但我告訴你它在育兒的各方面都有著重大積極的作用，讓你能更輕松應(yīng)對。
Mistakes Happen.
錯誤難免
I think everyone has something from their past that they're worried might adversely affect how they raise their children. Once a parent realizes that this is a normal part of the human condition, I think it makes parenting easier because you accept that every parent can make mistakes.
我想每個人都會擔心自己過去的某些事可能會對他們?nèi)绾闻囵B(yǎng)孩子產(chǎn)生不利的影響。一旦父母認識到這只是人性中很正常的一部分，那么我想教育孩子就會變得容易些，因為你接受每個父母都可能犯錯。
Say What You'll Do And Do What You Say.
說你所做，做你所說
When my brother starts to act bad I take away something that I know will catch his attention. If I threaten to give his DS to our dog Sasha he does whatever I tell him to. If you say you are going to do something, you must do it.
當我弟弟開始胡鬧時，我會拿走一些我知道能吸引他注意的東西。如果我威脅說把他的游戲機給我家的狗Sasha，他會對我言聽計從。如果你說你要去做某事，你就必須做到。
Monetary Rewards.
金錢獎勵
I find by rewarding my 4 year old with money its a great way to keep him on the right track. I also take money away if he acts out. He loves being able to put money in his safe place.
我發(fā)現(xiàn)金錢獎勵對我四歲的兒子來說是個能讓他規(guī)矩的好辦法。如果他胡來，我也會把錢拿走。他喜歡靠自己把錢放在他的安全地帶。
Have Children Learn One Thing Each Day.
讓孩子每天學(xué)樣?xùn)|西
We've always insisted that once our children began school that they make it a point to learn one new thing each day. The kids loved the idea so much that they are now teaching their kids the same thing. Both girls have actually become teachers themselves.
我們始終堅持一旦孩子開始上學(xué)，就要努力做到每天學(xué)一樣新東西。孩子們非常喜歡這主意，以致于現(xiàn)在她們用同樣的方式教育著自己的孩子。兩個女兒自己竟然都成了老師。
Whisper Instead of Yelling.
低語勝于怒吼
When I want to yell, I lower my voice instead. The kids (I have 6!) have to lower their voices to hear me. The lower I speak, the angrier I am, and the quicker they jump to behave.
當我想大吼時，我卻選擇降低聲音。孩子們（我有6個?。┎坏貌唤档退麄兊囊袅縼砺犖艺f話。我說話的聲音越低，表示我越生氣，他們也會越快地聽話。
Treat Others As You Want To Be Treated.
己所不欲， 勿施于人
In raising our children there is one thing I always try to remember, treat others as you wish to be treated. It really is that simple.
在育兒方面有一點我一直試圖記?。阂阅阕约簶酚诮邮艿姆绞綄Υ齽e人。就這么簡單。
Kids Thrive On Interaction.
互動讓孩子茁壯成長
My secret is to remember that kids are kids, not little adults. Enjoy their imagination and use it when teaching them the right and wrong way to behave. Kids thrive on interaction. Get down and play with them!
我的秘訣是記住孩子就是孩子，不是小成年人。欣賞他們的想象力并借以教導(dǎo)他們的舉止。孩子靠互動而健壯成長，所以和他們盡情地玩兒吧！
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