你的自我感覺會(huì)在很大程度上影響著別人如何看待你。在很多人前不發(fā)言，怕被人說自己笨，其實(shí)你低估了自己的承受力；當(dāng)你過分注意你想要得到的東西，腦子里就會(huì)有很多理由你為什么需要它，這樣會(huì)導(dǎo)致你細(xì)想自己的弱點(diǎn)；坐在前排，并不一定能帶來多大好處，但它確實(shí)能表明你已經(jīng)克服自己的恐懼。如果您正在尋找培養(yǎng)自信的方法，那這篇文章一定不能錯(cuò)過。-psytopic.com
自信就是不同于“不可阻擋”和“手足無措”之間的一種感覺。自我感覺深刻影響著別人對(duì)你自己的認(rèn)知。認(rèn)知是這樣的事實(shí)—你越自信，越有可能成功。
盡管影響自信的很多因素都不能受人控制，但是你也可以堅(jiān)持做一些事情以建立自信。采用以下10種策略，你可以獲得激發(fā)潛能所需的精神優(yōu)勢(shì)。
1. 著靚裝
盡管衣著不能決定一個(gè)人，可衣服的確影響人的自我感覺方式。沒有人比你自己注意你的外表。當(dāng)你的衣著看起來不太好時(shí)，你的行事方式以及和別人交流的方式就會(huì)改變。因而你可以通過好好打理自己的外表來增加自己的優(yōu)勢(shì)。很多情況下，常沐浴、修胡須，穿干凈的衣服以及換個(gè)最新款式的打扮能幫助你取得重大的進(jìn)步。
但這不是說要你花很多錢在穿著上。重要的準(zhǔn)則便是“花兩倍足已，買一半也夠”。與其買一大堆廉價(jià)衣服，不如多挑挑，只買一些高品質(zhì)的東西。要長期堅(jiān)持這種減少開銷策略，因?yàn)橄啾攘畠r(jià)衣服，好的衣服不容易穿壞也不容易過時(shí)。少買點(diǎn)衣服還可以減少你櫥柜的混亂程度。
2. 快步走路
告訴別人一個(gè)人自我感覺怎么樣的最簡單的方法就是看她走路。慢？疲倦？痛苦？或者精力充沛并且有目的？有自信的人走路都很快。他們知道自己要去什么地方，知道要去見什么人，并且有重要的事情做。即使你不著急，你也可以通過腳步的活力來增強(qiáng)自信。走快25%可以讓你看起來更加自信，也讓你自我感覺更加自信。
3. 好的體態(tài)
同樣，人們的體態(tài)都有一個(gè)故事。耷拉著肩膀、無精打采的人看起來缺乏自信。他們對(duì)自己所做的事情沒有熱情，也不認(rèn)為自己很重要。擁有好的體態(tài)，你自然而然就會(huì)感覺更自信。挺胸抬頭，眼睛直視前方。你將給人一個(gè)好的印象，立馬覺得更警覺更有力量。
4. 個(gè)人商業(yè)廣告
建立自信最好的方法是聽勵(lì)志的演講。很不幸，聽一個(gè)好的演講的機(jī)會(huì)難得。但是你可以通過商業(yè)廣告來填補(bǔ)這個(gè)空缺。寫一個(gè)約30到60秒的能表達(dá)你力量和目標(biāo)的演講稿。一旦你感覺需要信心助你向前時(shí)，就在鏡子面前大聲朗讀（如果你喜歡的話也可以在心里讀）。
5. 感恩的心
當(dāng)你過分注意你想要得到的東西，腦子里就會(huì)有很多理由你為什么需要它。這樣會(huì)導(dǎo)致你細(xì)想自己的弱點(diǎn)。避免這點(diǎn)最好的方法便是一直持有一顆感恩的心。每天花一些時(shí)間在腦子里列出你所需要感恩的所有事情?；叵胱约哼^去的成功，獨(dú)有的技能，來自各方面的愛，還有積極的動(dòng)力。你可能會(huì)為自己擁有這么多適合自己的事物而感到震驚，更會(huì)有動(dòng)力朝成功邁向下一步。
6. 贊美他人
當(dāng)我們消極地評(píng)價(jià)自我時(shí)，通常情況下我們也會(huì)喜歡對(duì)他人閑言閑語甚至充滿侮辱，將這種消極的感覺推己及人。為打破這種消極的循環(huán)，我們需要養(yǎng)成一種贊美他人的好習(xí)慣。不要對(duì)別人造謠中傷，而應(yīng)該稱贊身邊的人。在這個(gè)過程中，你將變得招人喜歡，還能建立自信。通過看到旁人最好的方面，你將直接激發(fā)自己最好的一面。
7. 坐在頭排
在學(xué)校，辦公室以及世界其他的公共集會(huì)中，人們總是爭取坐到屋子的最后面。大多數(shù)人喜歡后排因?yàn)樗麄兒ε卤蝗俗⒁?。這表明人們?nèi)狈ψ孕拧Ｈ绻阕谇芭?，你可以拋開這種毫無理性的恐懼并建立自信。你也將更容易被在前面說話的重要人物注意到。
8. 大聲說話
在團(tuán)隊(duì)討論中，很多人從來不發(fā)言因?yàn)樗麄兒ε聞e人覺得自己說的話讓人覺得他們很笨。這種恐懼并不對(duì)。一般而言，人們的承受力比想象的更強(qiáng)。事實(shí)上大多數(shù)人都在和同樣的恐懼做斗爭。只要努力在每個(gè)團(tuán)隊(duì)討論中大聲說出自己的想法，你就可能成為一個(gè)更好的公共場(chǎng)所發(fā)言者，對(duì)自己的想法也會(huì)更自信，并會(huì)被公認(rèn)為同類的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)。
9. 體育鍛煉
沿著個(gè)人外表的思路，能推出健康的身體對(duì)自信影響甚大。如果你身材走樣，你會(huì)感覺不安全，且精力不足。通過體育鍛煉，能塑造體型，讓自己充滿精力，積極地做好事情?？茖W(xué)地鍛煉身體不僅讓你感覺更好，還能在未來的日子創(chuàng)造積極的動(dòng)力。
10. 關(guān)注貢獻(xiàn)
我們太過注重自我欲望的滿足。我們太過關(guān)注自我而很少關(guān)心他人的需求。如果你停止考慮自己且專注于自己對(duì)這個(gè)社會(huì)的貢獻(xiàn)，你就不會(huì)如此擔(dān)心自己的缺點(diǎn)了。這樣可以增加自信，能讓你最有效地為社會(huì)做貢獻(xiàn)。你對(duì)社會(huì)的貢獻(xiàn)越大，你所獲得的個(gè)人成就和贊譽(yù)就越多。
原文閱讀：10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence
by John Wesley
Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable andfeeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has anenormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality 〞 themore self confidence you have, the more likely it is you＊ll succeed.
Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyondyour control, there are a number of things you can consciously do tobuild self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get themental edge you need to reach your potential.
1. Dress Sharp
Although clothes don＊t make the man, they certainly affect the wayhe feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physicalappearance than you are. When you don＊t look good, it changes the wayyou carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to youradvantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases,significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently,wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.
This doesn＊t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great ruleto follow is ※spend twice as much, buy half as much§. Rather thanbuying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high qualityitems. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clotheswear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes.Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.
2. Walk Faster
One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself isto examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic andpurposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places togo, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren＊t in ahurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep inyour step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel moreimportant.
3. Good Posture
Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. Peoplewith slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of selfconfidence. They aren＊t enthusiastic about what they＊re doing and theydon＊t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you＊llautomatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your headup, and make eye contact. You＊ll make a positive impression on othersand instantly feel more alert and empowered.
4. Personal Commercial
One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to amotivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a greatspeaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating apersonal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights yourstrengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (orinside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.
5. Gratitude
When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasonswhy you can＊t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. Thebest way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set asidetime each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for.Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, andpositive momentum. You＊ll be amazed how much you have going for you andmotivated to take that next step towards success.
6. Compliment other people
When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project thatfeeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break thiscycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuseto engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment thosearound you. In the process, you＊ll become well liked and build selfconfidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring outthe best in yourself.
7. Sit in the front row
In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, peopleconstantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people preferthe back because they＊re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lackof self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can getover this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You＊ll alsobe more visible to the important people talking from the front of theroom.
8. Speak up
During group discussions many people never speak up because they＊reafraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. Thisfear isn＊t really justified. Generally, people are much more acceptingthan we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact samefears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every groupdiscussion, you＊ll become a better public speaker, more confident inyour own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.
9. Work out
Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has ahuge effect on self confidence. If you＊re out of shape, you＊ll feelinsecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improveyour physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish somethingpositive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feelbetter, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest ofthe day.
10. Focus on contribution
Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much onourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stopthinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you＊remaking to the rest of the world, you won＊t worry as much about you ownflaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contributewith maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the moreyou＊ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.
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