在喜馬拉雅聽(tīng)了蕊內(nèi)的[睡前聽(tīng)]《不結(jié)婚》，記錄下一些句子：(英文翻譯是為了跟美國(guó)朋友交流)
不要試圖通過(guò)結(jié)婚來(lái)逃避面對(duì)自己，不要指望遇到一個(gè)差不多的人結(jié)婚，就可以解決現(xiàn)在自己生活中的所有困惑和窘境。不要忽略自己內(nèi)心深處最真實(shí)的感受與渴望，更不要埋沒(méi)天賦，自暴自棄，放棄夢(mèng)想。
Don't try to avoid facing yourself by marriage. Don't expect to meet a almost person to get married so you can solve all the puzzles and dilemmas in your life now. Don't ignore the most true feelings and desires of your heart, Don't bury your talent, Don't abandon yourself and to give up your dreams.
大部分人的婚姻愛(ài)情觀無(wú)非是綁架對(duì)方，真正的愛(ài)是自由的。
因?yàn)榈搅四挲g而找一個(gè)人來(lái)結(jié)婚，然后違心地去履行一些所謂的責(zé)任義務(wù)，這樣真的行得通嗎？
Most people's view of marriage and love is nothing more than abducting each other, and true love is free.
Because of the age and find a person to marry, and unwilling to perform some of the duties. that really work?
如果兩個(gè)人的關(guān)系真的很好，是不需要用任何契約的方式來(lái)束縛自己的。
If the relationship between the two people is really good, it is not necessary to bind themselves in any way of contract.
實(shí)質(zhì)上真正有品質(zhì)的關(guān)系就是有愛(ài)的關(guān)系，有愛(ài)才有家。一個(gè)人如果真正找到了自己內(nèi)在的愛(ài)，那份無(wú)條件的無(wú)私的愛(ài)，那么，無(wú)論一個(gè)人還是兩個(gè)人，無(wú)論結(jié)婚還是不結(jié)婚，都已經(jīng)找到家了呀！
In essence, the real relationship of quality is the relationship of having love, If you have love ,you can have a home. If a person truly finds his inner love, the unconditional and selfless love, no matter whether a person or two people, whether he marries or not, he has found a home.
結(jié)婚只是一種制度，但因這個(gè)制度而煩惱和被擺布的人數(shù)不勝數(shù)，即便沒(méi)有結(jié)婚這個(gè)紐帶，有愛(ài)也可以構(gòu)建一個(gè)家庭，既然有心意相通的人，又何必被制度所束縛呢。
Marriage is just a system, but the number of people who worry and be manipulated by this system is numerous. Even if there is no marriage link, love can also build a family. Since there are people who have a mind to connect with each other, why should they be bound by the system?
說(shuō)說(shuō)我最近的感悟：
學(xué)習(xí)客觀地去觀察和覺(jué)知自己的感受、情緒、想法以及正在做的每一件事情。然后就會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，有些自己曾經(jīng)做過(guò)的事情，簡(jiǎn)直是蠢到家了，也有些事簡(jiǎn)直是充滿了智慧，奇妙的是，同一件事情，從某個(gè)角度看，很愚蠢，從另外一個(gè)角度看，很智慧。
Learn to observe and be aware of my feelings, emotions, ideas, and everything that is being done. Then I find that some of the things that I have done before are simply stupid and some things are full of wisdom. The miracle is that the same thing is stupid from a certain angle but but is wise from another perspective.
所以真正客觀的觀察是，沒(méi)有評(píng)判，沒(méi)有對(duì)錯(cuò)，沒(méi)有好壞。
So the real objective observation is that there is no judgment, no right or wrong, no good or bad.
對(duì)于結(jié)婚或者不結(jié)婚，也沒(méi)有對(duì)錯(cuò)好壞的分別，而是因人而異。不是為了結(jié)婚而結(jié)婚，也不是為了不結(jié)婚而不結(jié)婚。
For marriage or not to marry, there is no difference between the wrong and the right, but the difference between people. Not to marry for marriage, nor to no marry for without marriage.
那到底要怎么做呢？我的觀點(diǎn)是去發(fā)現(xiàn)、修煉和應(yīng)用自己內(nèi)在的愛(ài)和智慧，當(dāng)你感性的愛(ài)和理性的智慧越平衡，當(dāng)你的愛(ài)越純粹，你越有大愛(ài)的能力，你的頭腦越清晰，覺(jué)知能力越強(qiáng)，你的問(wèn)題就會(huì)越來(lái)越少。
So what to do on earth? My view is to find and practice and our own inner love and intelligence. When your perceptual and rational intelligence is balanced, the more pure your love, the greater your ability to love, the clearer your brain and the stronger your awareness, the fewer problems you will have.
如何修煉愛(ài)和智慧，每個(gè)人有適合自己的方法，只要有足夠的渴望和愿力，就會(huì)找到。
How to cultivate love and wisdom, everyone has their own way, as long as there is enough desire ， it will be found.
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