1、閱讀Linda Kavelin Popov的著作：家庭美德指南。
2、閱讀蒙臺梭利教育及理念的書籍，看看如何運用在你的孩子身上。
3、閱讀“THE MICHAEL OLAF CATALOG”期刊。這個刊物向家長詳細介紹蒙臺梭利，以及如何選擇家中適應(yīng)孩子的玩具，材料和書籍等等。（http:www.michaelolaf.com）
4、花一些時間仔細觀察你的孩子，看看他/她 的性格表現(xiàn)。
5、分析一下你孩子的柜櫥，給孩子建一個便于移動獨立的不被其它物品干擾的柜櫥。
6、保證孩子有充足的睡眠。
7、使睡覺和起床成為平靜和愉快的日常規(guī)律。
8、在家里教優(yōu)雅禮儀并以身作則。和孩子有禮貌地交往，并幫助孩子踐行禮貌禮儀。
9、避免體罰，學(xué)會正面的訓(xùn)導(dǎo)。
10、孩子的書籍單放一個書架，閱后放回原處。
11、定期去公共圖書館，認識圖書管理員，了解圖書借閱過程，和孩子一起讀書。借書并讓孩子懂得保管圖書及閱后歸還圖書。
12、每天和孩子一起讀書。和孩子讀具有現(xiàn)實主題的故事。
13、讓孩子8:30準時到校。
4、給孩子足夠的時間讓他們自己穿衣服。
15、讓孩子自己參與準備食物，并鼓勵孩子為自己的吃飯承擔(dān)一些責(zé)任。
16、如果可能，給孩子找一小塊地，至少是一個花盆，讓孩子能體會種植東西。
17、以一孩子的速度一起散步，途中停下來一起觀察事物并談?wù)撘幌?strong>。
18、每天上學(xué)的時候，幫助孩子平穩(wěn)情緒，安靜下來，不要過度刺激，不要攜帶玩具和食物上學(xué)。
19、不要設(shè)置電視和嚴格限制孩子看電視，讓孩子積極參與活動，而不把孩子變成被動的觀看者。如果看電視，和孩子一起看，并討論看過的節(jié)目。
20、盡早教孩子收拾物品整理東西。比如，把玩具放回原處，把臟衣服放進洗衣筐，把盤子吃剩的東西倒掉，水池用后要清潔，等等。這樣孩子懂得用完東西放回原處。
21、經(jīng)常擁抱孩子，但不要強迫表示親密友好。注意兩者的區(qū)別。
22、經(jīng)常分配一些適合孩子做的日常的家務(wù)活，比如：擺放餐具和餐巾，整理分類，垃圾回收，除塵和澆花等等。
23、參加學(xué)校組織的家長教育活動。
24、父母安排時間同去參加家長會。共同商議參加家長會的準備工作以及寫下要問的問題。
25、口齒清楚地同孩子講話，不要含糊不清。和孩子交流的時候要尊重孩子，讓孩子在新的詞、短語以及表達上展現(xiàn)他們的天賦。
26、和孩子說話的時候，身體要降到孩子的高度，和孩子有眼神的交流。
27、唱歌！音色好壞并不重要。經(jīng)常和孩子一起唱歌，建立一個家庭里人人愛唱的曲目。
28、不要給孩子過多的正規(guī)功課和活動，讓孩子有時間去玩，探究或做一些有創(chuàng)意的事。
29、教給孩子安全的知識。（諸如：用火柴，插電插銷，用化工品，上下樓梯，過馬路，怎么報警，等等）
30、讓孩子知道家庭地址，電話號碼，以及家長姓名。
31、隨時隨地見機教孩子數(shù)數(shù)。
32、反復(fù)講述與家庭有關(guān)的故事。比如：“你出生的那一天……”
33、一起和孩子看家庭照片。幫助孩子認識家里的親戚，他們的名字，家庭關(guān)系。
34、記錄孩子的成長過程，寫成日記，逐年積累。分享孩子的成長故事也是愛心的體現(xiàn)。家長可以在孩子生日的時候講給同學(xué)聽。
35、幫助孩子意識到他自己的感覺，以及表示描述感情的詞匯。
36、和孩子一起做游戲。通過多次重復(fù)，讓孩子學(xué)習(xí)先來后到，體驗和經(jīng)歷輸和贏。
37、和孩子一起去幫助別人，比如，給病弱的鄰居送些吃的，給無家可歸的人捐些毯子，給一無所有的孩子送些玩具等等。
38、講美德語言。和孩子談?wù)撃托?，合作，真誠，快樂，幫助，善良，等等。如果孩子表現(xiàn)出以上美德及時的認可。
39、不要給孩子太多的玩的東西。如果東西過多，應(yīng)處理掉或先收起來一些，日后再替換。
40、記住一些詩詞，教給孩子并和孩子一起背誦。
41、鳥籠里拴一個食物罐，讓孩子負責(zé)放食物喂鳥。學(xué)習(xí)做一個好的觀察者，觀察學(xué)習(xí)你所看到的鳥。
42、不論何時，你帶孩子到諸如商店、餐廳或醫(yī)生診廳前，一定要先 預(yù)期給他/她心理上有準備，同時要讓他/她知道在這些地方你對他/她的期待是什么。
43、對孩子和其他的人表示感謝，也讓孩子學(xué)會這樣做。在收到禮物后會送表示感謝的卡片。 小的孩子可以口述讓大人代筆，或送張畫以示感謝。大的孩子可以自己寫。目的是讓孩子學(xué)會感激別人。
44、幫助孩子逐漸喜歡健康食物。不要強迫孩子吃他不愛吃的東西，但是也不能無限制的提供 替代的東西。把嘗試新的食物變成一件有趣的事。談?wù)撌挛锏纳阄缎巍８嬖V孩子“滋味”，教給他們?nèi)绾螌⑹澄镒兊糜凶涛?。讓孩子參與食物的準備工作。
45、采購食品的時候，和孩子談?wù)摽吹降臇|西---從金橘到龍蝦。談?wù)撌澄锏漠a(chǎn)地，談?wù)搹氖率称返姆N植、采摘、運輸和陳列的人們的故事。
46、給孩子提供適合其身材的家具：做功課的桌子和椅子，或者在起居室放一把搖椅能和你挨著，一個孩子能收拾的床，一個腳凳能讓孩子夠得著水池和臺面。
47.開車的時候，指窗外看到的東西并和孩子談?wù)摗ㄖさ?，有趣的樓房，車子，橋梁和動物?/p>
48.教孩子禮貌用語。教孩子他人講話時不插嘴。教給孩子說“打 擾了”，再等待一會。
49.分析一下孩子的不良行為，并從正面加以引導(dǎo)。比如：摔門——教給孩子怎樣正確關(guān)門，在房間里跑——教孩子如何走，流鼻涕——教給孩子怎樣用紙巾。
50.和不同年齡的人都好好坐坐，聊聊。
51.讓孩子了解你的信仰，讓他們感覺自己也是其中的一部分。
52.幫助孩子與不同民族，不同語言和不同信仰的人有積極地正確的接觸。
53.多笑一笑。玩文字的游戲。講講笑話。培養(yǎng)孩子的幽默感。
54.給孩子講講你的工作。你工作的時候讓孩子來看看，欣賞和感 激世界上任何他人所從事和完成的工作。
55.教給孩子游泳——越 小越好。
56.在家里放一個地球儀或地圖，以便一旦聽到什么地名，可和孩 子一起在上面查看。
57.保證孩子有合適的工具——適合孩子尺寸的笤帚，拖把，簸箕，小掃帚和擦塵的工具，等等，用來保持居家的整潔。
58.學(xué)會不帶怨氣，堅定地對孩子說“不”。不是所有孩子要的東 西都是合適的。
59.布置環(huán)境，并給孩子有選擇的余地，這樣可以多對孩子說 “對”，而少說“不對”。
60.不要嘲笑孩子。
61.提醒孩子將要發(fā)生的事，好讓他們有思想準備。比如：“再過 十分鐘就該睡覺了”。
62.教孩子查閱日歷，熟悉日和月，學(xué)會特殊節(jié)日的倒計時。經(jīng)常 和孩子談?wù)撨@些事。
63.養(yǎng)一只寵物，讓孩子負責(zé)照顧它。
64.有任何東西損壞了，不要輕易替換掉。幫助孩子懂得錢的價 值，和行為的后果。
65.晚上散步——聽聲 音，看月亮，聞一聞空氣的味道。
66.下雨的時候出去走走。穿上雨衣和雨鞋，體會下雨的感覺。
67.允許小一些的孩子（6歲 以下）投入所有的體力和腦力做積極的活動。電腦只適合于上小學(xué)或更大的孩子。
68.如果你需要出差離開孩子一段時間，給孩子按天留下充滿愛意 的便條，你不在的時候，他/她每天都能打開看一張。
69.讓孩子聽所有不同種類的音樂。
70.和孩子討論藝術(shù)，參觀雕塑公園，定期去博物館看幾張畫。讓 這些事情變得有意義和有興趣。不要一次看的過多。
71.輔導(dǎo)孩子學(xué)歸類：衣物歸類，餐具歸類，等等。
72.輔導(dǎo)孩子單詞里面的發(fā)音。玩字詞游戲：什么單詞是m開頭？什么單詞是k結(jié)尾？
73.用合適的容器放置孩子的物品，并放于孩子能夠拿得到的低架 上。
74.幫助孩子建立美感：帶他/她看花，草木和自然地物質(zhì)，盡量避免塑料等人造的物質(zhì)。
75.幫助孩子一起收藏一些感興趣的東西。
76.和孩子談?wù)擃伾▌e忘記色的漸變，深淺不同），質(zhì)地，和你 周圍能看到的形狀。
77.給孩子提供美術(shù)材料、紙張、合適的圍裙和規(guī)范工作空間的墊 子。同時給孩子提供清潔工具。
78.評估孩子所有的玩具。
這個玩 具能幫助孩子學(xué)到什么？
孩子玩 這個玩具嗎？
這個玩 具是好的嗎？各個零件都齊全嗎？
79.如果孩子能自己做某件事，盡量不要替他/她做。
80.安排體育鍛煉的機會——跑 步，單足蹦跳，跳繩，攀登。教給他們在怎樣是正確的姿勢。如果有必要，到戶外活動操場去。
81.教孩子如何靜止不動和保持“安靜”。和孩子一起這樣做。如 果有機會，孩子是喜歡靜靜思考的。
82.讓孩子知道他/她 的生日。
83.閱讀由學(xué)校發(fā)放的通知。
84.提醒老師注意任何可能影響你孩子的事情，諸如：缺乏睡眠， 置身于爭吵中，搬家，親屬來訪，父/母外出等。
85.給孩子提供一個可挖掘的場所。允許孩子有時候可以無拘無束 的弄臟自己。
86.避免給孩子物質(zhì)獎勵或過多的稱贊。讓成功的經(jīng)驗本身作為一 種獎勵。
87.不要代自己的孩子與他人交談。給孩子表達自己的機會，如果 他/她不說話，也沒有關(guān)系。
88.當你做錯時，要向孩子道歉。
89.了解蒙臺梭利教學(xué)法中的（孩子的）敏感期。知道你的孩子所 處在的時期，并善加利用。
90.學(xué)會等待。有些人們想給予孩子的或想和孩子一起做的，在等 到孩子年齡大一些時進行會更適合，不要操之過急，最佳時刻一定會到來，要專注他們目前的發(fā)展。
91.讓他們知道你珍視他們的優(yōu)點。讓他們聽到你對別人優(yōu)點的表 達。
93.總是告訴他們實情。
94.帶孩子到沙灘上去玩耍。
95.至少帶孩子乘坐公共汽車、火車、飛機等公共交通工具一次。
96.和孩子一起看日出、日落。
97.與孩子分享適當?shù)男侣劊喝缧掳l(fā)現(xiàn)的恐龍，動物園中小象的出 生，因勇敢而獲殊榮的孩子，天氣預(yù)報等。
98.留意孩子的發(fā)型。是整潔毫不凌亂，還是頭發(fā)總是擋眼，或者 發(fā)飾總掉下來，等等。
99.讓孩子幫助你洗車，并學(xué)會汽車各部件的名稱。在洗車或做其 他的事情時，家長應(yīng)多花時間去關(guān)注孩子做這些事情的過程而非結(jié)果。
100.用不經(jīng)意的方式談?wù)撚?，左，直行，轉(zhuǎn)彎，北，南，東，西， 這樣你的孩子可以掌握方向感及談?wù)摲较虻姆椒ā?/p>
101.在冰箱底層放一小罐水或果汁，且把一個杯子放在孩子伸手可 及的地方，這樣孩子可以自己取飲料。
102.如果你的孩子過于依賴某物，如奶嘴等，開始想辦法停止。
祝您和 您的孩子一起享受生活！
102 Things Parents Can Do to Help Children
1. Read The Family Virtues Guide by Linda Kavelin Popov and Dan Popov.
2.Read about Montessori education and philosophy and how it applies to your child.
3.Subscribe to The Michael Olaf Catalog. This wonderful publication is a clear introduction to Montessori for parents as well as a source book of ideal toys, materials, books, etc. for the home. (http://www.michaelolaf.com)
4.Take the time to stand back and observe your child carefully and note the characteristics he/she is displaying.
5.Analyze your child's wardrobe and build a wardrobe aimed at freedom of movement, independence, and freedom from distraction.
6.Make sure your child gets sufficient sleep.
7.Make both going to bed and getting up a calm and pleasant ritual.
8.Teach grace and courtesy in the home. Model it. Use courtesy with your child and help your child to demonstrate it.
9.Refrain from physical punishment and learn ways of positive discipline.
10.Have a special shelf where your child's books are kept and replaced after careful use.
11. Make regular trip to the public library, and become familiar with the librarians and how the library works and enjoy books together. Borrow books and help your child learn the responsibility for caring for them and returning them.
12. Read together daily. With younger children stick to books with realistic themes.
13. See that your child gets to school on time - that is by 8:30.
14.Allow sufficient time for your child to dress himself/herself.
15. Allow your child to collaborate with food preparation and encourage your extended day child to take at least some responsibility for preparing his or her own lunch.
16. If possible allow your child a plot of land or at least a flower pot in which to experience growing things.
17. Take walks together at the child's pace, pausing to notice things and talk about them.
18. Help your child be in a calm and prepared mood to begin school rather than over-stimulated and carrying toys or food.
19. Eliminate or strictly limit TV watching and replace with activity oriented things which involve the child rather than his/her being a passive observer. When the child does watch TV, watch it with him/her and discuss what is being seen.
20.From the earliest age give your child the responsibility to pick up after himself/herself, i.e., return toys to place, put dirty clothes in laundry basket, clear dishes to appropriate place, clean off sink after use, etc. This necessitates preparing the environment so children know where things go.
21. Hug regularly but don't impose affection. Recognize the difference.
22.Assign regular household tasks that need to be done to maintain the household to your child as age appropriate. (Perhaps setting silverware and napkins on the table, sorting, recycling, dusting, watering plants, etc.)
23.Attend school parent education functions.
24.Arrange time for both parents to attend parent-teacher conferences. Speak together in preparation for the conference and write down questions to ask.
25.Talk to your child clearly without talking down. Communicate with respect and give the child the gift of language, new words and expressions.
26.When talking to your child, physically get on his/her level, be still, and make eye contact.
27.Sing Voice quality does not matter. Sing together regularly. Build a repertoire of family favorites.
28.Refrain from over-structuring your child's time with formal classes and activities.Leave time to "just be," to play, explore, create.
29.Teach your child safety precautions. (Deal with matches, plugs, chemicals, stairs, the street, how to dial 911, etc.
30.Teach your child his/her address, phone number, and parents' names.
31. Count Utilize natural opportunities that arise.
32.Tell and re-tell family based stories. For example, "On the day you were born¼"
33.Look at family pictures together. Help your child be aware of his/her extended family, names, and relationships.
34.Construct your child's biography, the story of his/her life. A notebook is ideal so that it can be added to each year. Sharing one's story can become a much loved ritual. It can be shared with the child's class at birthday time.
35.Assist your child to be aware of his/her feelings, to have vocabulary for emotions and be able to express them.
36.Play games together. Through much repetition children learn to take turns, to win and lose.
37.Together, do things to help others. For example, take food to an invalid neighbor, contribute blankets to a homeless shelter, give toys to those who have none, etc.
38.Speak the language of the virtues. Talk about patience, cooperativeness, courage, ingenuity, cheerfulness, helpfulness, kindness, etc. and point out those virtues when you see them demonstrated.
39.Refrain from giving your child too much "stuff." If there is already too much, give some away or store and rotate.
40. Memorize poetry and teach it to your child and recite it together.
41.Put up a bird feeder. Let your child have responsibility for filling it. Together learn to be good watchers and learn about the birds you see.
42.Whenever you go somewhere with your child, prepare him/her for what is going to happen and what will be expected of him/her at the store, restaurant, doctor's office, etc.
43.Express appreciation to your child and others and help your child to do the same.Send thank you notes for gifts. Young children can dictate or send a picture. Older children can write their own. What is key is learning the importance of expressing appreciation.
44. Help your child to learn to like healthful foods. Never force a child to eat something he/she does not like, but also doesn't offer unlimited alternatives. Make trying new things fun. Talk about foods and how they look or describe the taste. Introduce the word "savor" and teach how to do it. Engage children in food preparation.
45!When food shopping, talk to your child about what you see - from kumquats to lobsters. Talk about where food items come from. Talk about the people who help us by growing, picking, transporting, and displaying food.
46. Provide your child with appropriate sized furniture: his/her own table and chair to work at; perhaps a rocker in the living room to be with you; a bed that can easily be made by a child; a stool for climbing up to sink or counter.
47.While driving, point things out and discuss - construction work, interesting buildings, vehicles, bridges, animals.
48.Teach the language of courtesy. Don't let your child interrupt. Teach how to wait after saying,
"Excuse me, please."
49. Analyze any annoying behavior of your child and teach from the positive. For example: door slamming - teach how to close a door; running in the house - teach how to walk; runny nose - teach how to use a tissue.
50.Spend quality time with people of different ages.
51. Teach your child about your religion and make them feel a part of it.
52.Help your child to have positive connections with people of diverse ethnicities, language, and beliefs.
53.Laugh a lot. Play with words. Tell jokes. Help your child to develop a sense of humor.
54!Share your profession or occupation with your child. Have him/her visit at work and have some
appreciation of work done in the world.
55.See that your child learns to swim - the younger the better.
56.Have a globe or atlas in the house, and whenever names of places come up locate them with the child.
57.Make sure your child has the tools he/she needs - child size broom, mop, dust pan, whisk broom, duster, etc., to help maintain the cleanliness of the household.
58.Learn to say, "No," without anger, and with firmness and conviction. Not everything children want is appropriate.
59.Arrange environments and options so that you end up saying yes more than no.
60. Refrain from laughing at your child.
61. Alert children to upcoming events so they can mentally prepare, e.g., "In ten minutes, it will be time for bed."
62.Help children to maintain a calendar, becoming familiar with days and months, or counting down to special events. Talk about it regularly.
63.Get a pet and guide your child to take responsibility for its care.
64. Refrain from replacing everything that gets broken. Help children to learn the value of money, and the consequences of actions.
65.Take a nighttime walk --- listen to sounds, observe the moon, smell the air.
66.Take a rain walk. Wear coats and boots to be protected, but then fully enjoy the rain.
67.Allow your Primary-aged child to use his/her whole body and mind for active doing. Save computers for the Elementary years and later when they become a useful tool of the conscious mind.
68.If you must travel without your child, leave notes behind for him/her to open each day you are gone.
69.Expose your child to all sorts of music.
70.Talk about art, visit statue gardens, and make short visits to museums and look at a couple of pictures. Make it meaningful and enjoyable. Don't overdue.
71. Help them learn to sort: the laundry, silverware, etc.
72.Help them become aware of sounds in words. Play games: what starts with "mmmm?" "What ends with K¼.."
73.Organize the child's things in appropriate containers and on low shelves.
74.Aid the child in absorbing a sense of beauty: expose him/her to flowers, woods, and natural materials, and avoid plastic.
75.Help your child start a collection of something interesting.
76.Talk about the colors (don't forget shades), textures, and shapes you see around you.
77.Provide art materials, paper, appropriate aprons, and mats to define the work space. Provide tools for cleaning up.
78.Evaluate each of your child's toys.
Does it help him/her learn something?
Does the child use it?
Does it "work," and are all pieces present?
79.Refrain from doing for a child what he/she can do for himself/herself.
80!Provide opportunities for physical activity - running, hopping, skipping, climbing. Teach them how. Go to a playground if necessary.
81. Teach children how to be still and make "silence." Do it together. Children love to be in a meditative space if given the opportunity.
82.Teach your child his/her birthday.
83.Read the notes that are sent home from school.
84!Alert the teacher to anything that may be affecting your child—lack of sleep, exposure to a fight, moving, relative visiting in home, parent out of town, etc.
85.Provide a place to just dig. Allow your child to get totally dirty sometimes without inhibitions.
86.Refrain from offering material rewards or even excessive praise. Let the experience of accomplishment be its own reward.
87. Don't speak for your child to others. Give the space for the child to speak for himself/herself, and if he/she doesn't, it's okay.
88. Apologize to your child when you've made a mistake.
89. Understand what Montessori meant by sensitive periods. Know when your child is in one and utilize it.
90. Learn to wait. Some things people want to give their children or do with them are more appropriate at a large age. Be patient, the optimal time will come. Stay focused on where they are right now.
91. Play ball together: moms and dads, boys and girls.
92. Tell them what you value in them. Let them hear you express what you value in others.
93. Always tell them the truth.
94. Go to the beach and play in the sand.
95. Ride the bus; take a train—at least once.
96. Watch a sunrise. Watch a sunset.
97. Share appropriate "news" from the newspaper: new dinosaur was discovered; a baby elephant born at the zoo; a child honored for bravery; the weather forecast.
98. Evaluate your child's hairstyle. Is it neat and not a distraction or is it always in the child's eyes,
falling out of headbands, etc.?
99. Let your child help you wash the car and learn the vocabulary of the parts of the car. With this
and P P P other tasks take time to focus on the process for the child more than the end product.
100. Talk about right, left, straight, turn, north, south, east, west, in a natural way so your child develop a sense of direction and the means to talk about it.
101.Place a small pitcher of water or juice on a low refrigerator shelf and a glass in a low place so your child can be independent in getting a drink.
102. If your child is attached to things like pacifiers, start a weaning process.
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