沒有遺憾的生活
A guest post by Tess Marshall of The Bold Life.
When I think of someone who lived a life without regrets, I think of my mom. She only had a sixth grade education because she quit school to take care of her own mother.
每當我想起誰的一生沒有遺憾，就會想起我的媽媽。她只讀到小學(xué)六年級，以為她不得不照顧她的媽媽。
Her first husband died from a brain tumor and she was left with three small children. Soon after, she married my dad and together they raised ten children.
她第一任丈夫死于腦瘤，給她留下了三個年幼的孩子。不久之后，她跟我爸爸結(jié)婚了，他們共同養(yǎng)育了10個孩子。
Mom never learned how to drive. She never had her own bank account. She never lived alone. Yet, she had the courage to divorce my dad when she was 65 years old.
媽媽從沒學(xué)過開車，也從沒有過自己的銀行賬戶。她從沒有一個人生活過，然而，她65歲的時候卻有勇氣跟我爸爸離婚。
She remained friends with my dad after the divorce. When her health failed nearly twenty years later, she moved back in with him, no regrets.
和我爸爸離婚之后他們還是朋友。20年之后她身體不好，又搬回來和爸爸一起住，沒有留下遺憾。
Eight months have gone by since my mom passed away at age 90. I’ve given a lot of though to how I live my own life because of her love and influence.
從媽媽90歲去世到現(xiàn)在已經(jīng)8個月了。在媽媽的愛和影響之下，我時常想我該如何度過自己的一生。
Keep in mind everyone makes mistakes, we’re human. When we learn from our mistakes, we can move on and let our regrets go.
時刻銘記人非圣賢孰能無過。從錯誤中學(xué)習(xí)，我們可以不斷進步，遠離遺憾。
Read on to learn how you can live a life with no regrets.
讀讀此文學(xué)習(xí)學(xué)習(xí)如何度過一個沒有遺憾的人生
Invest in yourself
投資自己
Be your own loving caregiver. Rejecting and neglecting yourself are painful. You are worthy because you exist. Practice feeling affection and appreciation for yourself. Allow yourself to feel pleasure.
好好愛自己。拒絕和忽視自己是很痛苦的，存在即合理。學(xué)會喜歡并欣賞自己。允許自己感到快樂。
Share. Learn to self-reveal. Give others a peek into your inner world. Disclose your thoughts, experiences, feelings, and dreams. You have the power to light up a life or brighten a room with your presence.
分享。學(xué)會釋放自己。給別人走進你內(nèi)心世界的機會。展示你的想法、經(jīng)歷、情感和夢想。你可以點亮你的人生，照亮你的存在。
Know yourself. Get comfortable in your own skin. Accept your weaknesses and shortcomings. Celebrate your strengths and successes. Have the confidence to be who you are.了解你自己。對自己的皮膚滿意。接收自己的弱點和缺點。為自己的優(yōu)勢和成功喝彩。對自己充滿信心。
Be good to yourself. Put yourself first. Become your own best friend. Make good choices. Several times throughout the day ask, “Does this choice honor me?”
對自己好一點。把自己放在第一位，做自己的最好朋友。做正確的選擇。每天問自己幾次“這個選擇值得嗎”
Invest in others
投資別人
Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. Choose to be with the people who bring out the best in you. Love the people who don’t support you from a distance. Wish them well and send them on their way.
和那些愛你尊重你的人在一起，選擇那些可以讓你最好一面展示出來的人在一起。愛那些真正支持你的人，祝福他們陪伴他們。
Say, “I love you,” often. Express your affection and appreciation to friends and family. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and uncomfortable. Life is short. What matters is connection. Connect as often as possible.
經(jīng)常說“我愛你”把你對家人和朋友的喜愛和感激表達出來。允許自己脆弱，人生短暫。關(guān)鍵是聯(lián)系，要盡可能經(jīng)常地聯(lián)系。
Live simply. Keep your relationships uncomplicated. Create meaningful experiences. Make memories. Don’t gossip or compare yourself to others. You don’t know what anything is for. You can’t see the big picture.
簡單的生活。保持你的關(guān)系簡單。經(jīng)歷有意義的經(jīng)歷，留下回憶。不要議論別人，也不要那自己和別人相比。你不知道事物的發(fā)展，你看不到大的輪廓。
Invest in spirituality.
投資精神世界
Keep your heart open. Practice accepting people you don’t like. Look for the good in everyone. Be kind and smile. Every human being wants the same three things; to love, to be loved, and to know they matter.
打開心門。試著接受那些你不喜歡的人，尋找每一個人的優(yōu)點。友好微笑的做人。每個人都希望相同的三樣?xùn)|西：愛，被愛以及知道自己的重要。
Get spiritual. Go within. Use prayer, silence, meditation or yoga. Connect with God, Buddha, or what ever is right for you. Renew your spirit and strength.
找到精神寄托。禱告，沉默，沉思，瑜伽?；浇蹋鸾袒蛘呷魏芜m合你的。不斷更新你的精神和力量。
Spend time in nature. Swim in the ocean. Plant a garden. Climb a mountain. Ride in a dune buggy. Walk barefoot in the grass. Watch the sunrise and sunset. Any thing you do outside is energizing and refreshing. Being in nature creates calm.
走進大自然。在大海里面游泳，建一個花園。登一座山，在沙漠里兜風(fēng)，赤著腳漫步在草地上。看日出日落，在大自然里面做的每一件事都是在補充精力。大自然使人平靜。
Learn to forgive. Resolve your childhood issues. Release grudges and guilt. Forgive yourself for hurting others. Forgive others for causing you pain. Forgive your parents. Louise Hay says, “Our parents did the best they could at the time, with what they had. When we know better we do better.”
學(xué)會原諒。忘記兒時的爭執(zhí)，忘記仇恨和罪惡。原諒自己對別人的傷害，也原諒別人對你的傷害。原諒你的父母。路易斯 海 說：“我們父母盡可能把他們最好的給我，我們理解的越明白我們就會做的越多”
Accept others as they are. Attempting to change someone is a waste of time and energy. You will find yourself doing tomorrow what you judge somebody for doing today. We are all imperfectly perfect. Stay in your own backyard. Mind your own business.
接受別人。嘗試改變別人是一件浪費時間和精力的事情。你會發(fā)現(xiàn)評論別人是在浪費你的時間。我們都不完美，管好自己。
Invest in health and wellness.
投資健康
Eat mindfully. Don’t multi-task. Keep your mind in the present moment. Be grateful for your food. Smell and really taste your food. Notice the texture. Pause between bites. Stop when you are full.
主意飲食。不要多元化，讓你的意識停留在當前，感激你的食物。沒吃一口的時候停下來去真正的品嘗你的食物。吃飽的時候就不要再吃了。
Exercise regularly. Begin today and make one small change in your wellness program. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. It’s a win-win situation. You’ll feel good today and at the same time invest in a healthy and happy future.
定時鍛煉。從今天開始，為你的健康項目改變一點點。重復(fù)，重復(fù)再重復(fù)。這是雙贏的，不但今天會感覺很好而且是在為一個健康幸福的將來投資。
Schedule play and fun. Discover the benefits of play. Laughter and joy enrich your well-being. Prominent psychologist, Erik Erikson stated, “The richest and fullest lives balance work, love, and play. All three must be pursued with equal dedication.”
計劃著學(xué)習(xí)和玩。去發(fā)掘玩的益處?？鞓泛托ψ屇憬】?，著名心理學(xué)家埃里克森說“最富有充實的人生是找到工作，愛情和娛樂的平衡點”
Be creative. Take time to create things that have nothing to do with your work or business. Make a collage. Do a self-portrait. Take photographs. Try a new recipe. We were born to create. It’s good for your soul.
有創(chuàng)造力。花一些時間去創(chuàng)造那些和你工作無關(guān)的事情。制作一個拼圖，畫一幅自畫像，攝影，學(xué)一道新菜。人與生俱來具有創(chuàng)造性，這對你的身心有益。
Enjoy your work.
喜歡你的工作
Follow your dreams. You are capable of way more than you can imagine. Create a plan and take action. Learn to prioritize and focus. Leo Babauta, suggests, you focus on how much you love what you’re doing, instead of how much you can accomplish.
追隨 你的夢想，你的能力會超出你的想象。制作一個計劃并付出行動。學(xué)會優(yōu)先考慮并專注與此 。里奧 巴伯塔說，你的專注度取決于你對你所做事情的熱愛而不是你能完成多少。
Take risks. Do one thing a day that scares you. Make a phone call and ask for what you want. Follow up. Keep asking until you get a yes. Be bold and brave. You have nothing to lose. There are approximately 7 billion people in the world. If someone tells you ‘no’ ask someone else.
去冒險。一天做一件使你害怕的事兒。打一個電話要你想要的東西。繼續(xù)堅持直到你得到一個肯定的答復(fù)，勇敢一點，你不會失去什么。世界上大約有70億人。如果一個人給你說“不”那個請求其他的人。
Expand your comfort zone. Face your fears. Name your fears in your journal. Next to each fear, write down the worse case scenarios if the fear came true. Question how each fear is holding you back. Take and action step within the next 24 hours toward a personal goal.
擴大你的舒適區(qū)。正視恐懼，記下旅途中的恐懼，走近每一個恐懼，如果恐懼成真就記下當時糟糕的情景。想想每一個恐懼是如何讓你后退的。在明天之內(nèi)采取行動走向下個個人目標。
Enjoy your life.
熱愛你的生活
Do it now. Don’t procrastinate. Take a vacation. Go on a trip. See the world. Go places you haven’t been before. Do things you haven’t done before. Explore!
立刻行動，不要拖延。度一個假期去旅行?？纯词澜?，去一個你從沒有去過的地方，做從沒有做過的事情。去探險！
Participate in life. Watch very little television. Eliminate watching, reading or listening to the news. Someone will tell you what’s going on in the world. Instead of watching reality shows, take a dance or singing lesson
參與人生。少看電視，減少看，讀或者聽新聞的時間，有人會告訴你世界當前發(fā)生了什么。用看不現(xiàn)場直播的時間去參見一個舞蹈或者歌唱班。
Be debt free. Live with less. Give up recreational shopping. Don’t buy into the next best thing. Put your time and energy into your family, neighborhood and community.
不要欠債。儉樸的生活，放棄一些娛樂性的購物。不要買些將來用的東西，把你的時間和精力投入到你的家人鄰居和社區(qū)里。
Learn how to handle setbacks. Life is made of ups, downs, and disappointments. When life becomes difficult, take it easy. Look for a lesson in each experience, learn from it, and move forward.
學(xué)會如何處理挫折，生活由順利，挫折和失望構(gòu)成。如果生活變得困難就不要緊張。從沒次經(jīng)歷中學(xué)習(xí)，前進。
Let go of urgency and fear. When you live in the pain of the past or the fear of the future you feel anxious and stressed. Learn to relax and go with the flow. Shift your energy by changing your thoughts. Recognize the fear based stories you tell yourself and drop them.放開恐懼。如果你生活在過去的痛苦之中或者對將來的恐懼之中，你將會感覺焦慮不安。學(xué)會放松讓那些恐懼隨風(fēng)而去。改變你的思想增加精力，認識到恐懼是自己給的然后驅(qū)走它們。
Stop whining. Become aware of how often you complain or find fault with others. You cannot be happy when you feel like a victim, believe you’re entitled, want to be rescued or blame others. Learn to recognize and change these destructive thoughts and emotions.
停止抱怨。認識到你多么經(jīng)常的抱怨或者職責(zé)別人的錯誤。總是覺得自己是一個受害者你是不會開心的，總覺得自己需要被拯救，不斷的職責(zé)別人。學(xué)會意識到并去改變這些致命的想法和感覺。
Give more than you take. Anticipate someone’s needs and meet them. Go the extra mile. Make others feel important. Help someone as often as possible. Share your knowledge. Do something for someone who can’t pay you back.
多付出少求回報。發(fā)現(xiàn)別人的需要并滿足他們。走剩下的路程，讓別人感覺到他們的重要性。盡可能多的幫助別人，分享你的知識。幫助那些不能夠回報你的人。
Surrender your regrets. They have helped you grow into the person you are today. When you know better you do better. Choose to create and amazing and adventurous future for yourself, one wonderful day at a time.
降服你的遺憾。它們使你成長為現(xiàn)在的你。你明白的越多做的越好。選擇為自己闖關(guān)一個了不起的冒險的未來，每天都是精彩的。
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