是否當(dāng)你每次轉(zhuǎn)身時生活都會當(dāng)面打擊你？不要只是站在那兒也不反抗。
You don’t have to be miserable forever. You can change your life and have an awesome one.
你不會永遠(yuǎn)都是那樣悲慘。你可以改變你的人生使其成為了不起的經(jīng)歷。
You can have a life in which you smile every morning and feel excitement to start the new day. You can have happiness and fun. No longer fearing what aggravation will wait for you.
你能夠擁有這樣的人生，每天早上你都會微笑并為新的一天開始而激動。你可以擁有快樂和樂趣。而不必害怕有什么糟糕的事情在等著你。
Instead of flying off the handle every time something bad happens, you could take it all in stride. Imagine – sighing, picking up the pieces, putting things back in order and move on as if nothing happened. How good does that sound?
在糟糕的事情發(fā)生后，不必每一次都停下來處理它，你可以大步前進(jìn)將其拋在腦后。想象一下，嘆息、收拾殘局、整理好一切以及繼續(xù)就好像什么都沒有發(fā)生過一樣。聽起來如何？
If you’re sick of living life as a human punching bag, make some positive changes that will last a lifetime. You could finally be one of those people you hate to be around, the ones that seem to be happy all the time.
如果你厭倦了將生活作為一個人的出氣筒，那么做出一些積極的改變，（而這改變）將會持續(xù)一生。最終你會成為那些你曾經(jīng)嫉妒的、整天看起來都很快樂的那類人。
How is that they are always like that, anyway? You’re about to find out a few of their secrets.
那么，他們到底是怎樣才會整天都很快樂呢？你即將發(fā)現(xiàn)一些他們的秘密。
Attack, Squash and Move On
進(jìn)攻、打擊和繼續(xù)前進(jìn)
Bad things happen to everyone. No one is immune to that. The differences between people who are happy and miserable people are that happy ones know what to do when something bad happens.
壞事人人都會遇到。沒人免得了。快樂的人和痛苦的人之間的區(qū)別在于糟糕的事情發(fā)生后快樂的人知道該怎么做。
They attack it, like a vulture on prey. As soon as something look like it’s about to go awry they are on top of it to squash it.
他們會采取進(jìn)攻，就像禿鷹捕食獵物一樣。一旦事情看起來將要出錯時，他們就會占據(jù)上方進(jìn)行打擊。
If they aren’t able to stop the crisis from happening, they do everything in their power to control every part of it until it’s resolved. They take it over and do whatever they have to do to resolve it. Once it’s resolved, they take a deep breath, relax and move on with a smile.
如果他們不能阻止即將到來的危機(jī)，他們會竭盡所能去控制危機(jī)的每一部分直到問題解決。他們掌控危機(jī)并解決危機(jī)做任何力所能及的努力。一旦危機(jī)得到解決，他們會深呼吸、放松然后帶著微笑前進(jìn)。
So what does it feel like after an accomplishment like that? Image yourself conquering a crisis with control and strength. Now you know can take on anything life wants to throw your way. You are ready.
那么像那樣完成了一項(xiàng)成就后感覺會是如何呢？想象一下當(dāng)你通過控制和能力征服了一次危機(jī)。現(xiàn)在你知道當(dāng)遭遇人生意外該如何應(yīng)對了。你能解決。
Remove the Problem Source
解決問題的源頭
Does life keep slapping you in the face from the same direction? In other words, is there someone or something that’s causing you problems?
生活是否會始終從同一方面來打擊你嗎？換句話說，是什么人或什么事引發(fā)了你的問題？
Find the origin of your problems to either fix it or eliminate it. If it’s a relationship, you might have to talk to the person about her behavior or make changes to your environment.
找到問題的來源，然后解決它或去除它。如果是人際關(guān)系的問題，你可能需要同某人談?wù)勊男袨榛蜥槍δ愕沫h(huán)境做出一些改變。
The point of this life change is to identify the source of why you are miserable and make a change instead of just living with it. Remember, don’t subject yourself to living like this – make a change.
這項(xiàng)生活改變的關(guān)鍵在于辨別什么導(dǎo)致你成為痛苦的人并為之做出改變而不是繼續(xù)這樣生活。牢記，不要使自己屈服于這樣的生活--做出改變。
Change Yourself When You Can’t Change Others
不能改變他人時請改變自己
So you can’t always change other people or the world around you, so in this case, you’ll have to change the way you react. The good news is that many times, people will change the way they act when you change the way you react.
你無法總是改變身邊的人或環(huán)境，因此在這樣的情況下，你得改變你反應(yīng)的方式。好消息是很多時候，人們總是隨著你對他們反應(yīng)的改變而改變。
Follow these steps to change your reaction to your world:
按照以下步驟改變你對你周邊的反應(yīng)：
When someone makes you upset, express that the topic of conversation upsets you, offer to change the topic, and if that doesn’t work, end the conversation.
1.當(dāng)有人使你情緒低落時，解釋這種交流的主題使你情緒不佳，試著改變談話的主題，如果不起作用的話，結(jié)束這次交流吧。
Guests with boundary issues should be confronted with an expression of your needs such as, “I need time to get ready for your arrival.” with a follow up request such as, “Will you please call me a day or two ahead of time next time?”
2.客人拜訪的時限問題最好就你的需要事先進(jìn)行溝通，例如：“我需要時間為你的到來做準(zhǔn)備?！比缓罂呻S之提出如以下的請求：“下次你能否提前一兩天打電話通知我一下？”
Do not feed people who insult you with comebacks or satisfy them with your discontent. Instead, smile and express your self-approval and love by saying nothing or saying, “I am sorry but I disagree with your opinion.”
3.不要對辱罵你的人進(jìn)行同樣的反擊或讓你的不滿使他們高興。取而代之的是，微笑，并通過沉默或說“抱歉，但我不同意你的看法”來表達(dá)你的自我肯定和愛心。
Stop pleasing others and start pleasing yourself. You can’t make everyone happy all of the time. So stop trying because all you’ll do is disappoint yourself in the end. You don’t need that. As long as you make yourself proud, you’ll always be happy.
4.停止取悅他人，開始欣賞自我。你不可能總是使所有人都高興。因此停止這類的嘗試吧，因?yàn)槟氵@樣所做的一切最終會使你自我否定。你不需要如此。只要你讓自己自豪起來，你就會總是快樂的。
When you feel unhappy with something in your life, make a change to ease that unhappiness. If you feel guilty about something, do what you feel guilty about so you don’t feel guilty anymore. As long as you learn to listen to your inner self, you’ll be giving yourself what you need and making yourself happy.
5.當(dāng)你對人生中的某些事情感到不高興時，做出一些改變以釋放那些煩惱。如果你為一些事情感到內(nèi)疚，去做那些會使你不再感覺內(nèi)疚的事情。只要你學(xué)會傾聽內(nèi)在的自我，你將會給予自我你所需并使感受到快樂。
Your Life Needs a Leader
你的人生需要領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者
The reason why it seems as though your life is so out of control is that it doesn’t have a leader. Lead your life starting now.
你的人生總是失去控制的原因在于你沒有一位領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者。從現(xiàn)在開始引導(dǎo)你的人生吧。
You’ll start to see how much better it feels to be in control of what happens every day. How much more you can get done. How good it feels not to feel like the world is fighting against you.
你會開始看到當(dāng)每天發(fā)生的事情都處于控制之中時的感覺是多么美好。更何況你可以做到。當(dāng)發(fā)現(xiàn)世界不再與你為敵時的那種感覺是如此之好。
It’s time to step out of misery and into happiness. You deserve this after everything you’ve been through.
現(xiàn)在是時候擺脫痛苦并享受快樂了。當(dāng)你經(jīng)歷了一切后這都是你應(yīng)得的。
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