作者就寫了這么短啊……...
Q: What are the most difficult things people have to learn in their twenties?
Q：20-30歲，應(yīng)該學(xué)會的東西里面最難的是什么？
Answered by Arjuna Perkins
下面是Arjuna Perkins的解答
Here are some of the things my 20's have taught me.
二十歲教會了我如下幾件事：
-1. Humility. This is the decade of failure. And that's ok - it's probably the first time in your life you've had to contend with most of the things you're taking on. Supporting yourself, managing your time / stress / relationships, figuring out what role you want work / study / spirituality / etc. to play in your life. Very few get through their 20's without some serious soul searching and questioning of fundamental beliefs and habits... And I don't envy those who do. This is the best time in your life to be making mistakes. It gets steadily less socially acceptable as you progress in age, so go crazy!
1.虛心好學(xué)：這是一個(gè)充滿挫折的10年，不過不要緊，這可能是你人生中第一次感覺到做什么事情仿佛都跟自己作對一樣。剛剛開始獨(dú)立生活，自己控制時(shí)間，壓力，人際關(guān)系。尋找自己的人生定位，想要明確后半生從事什么樣的工作，研究，或精神理想，等等。很少有人在20多歲這個(gè)年紀(jì)里沒有過，困惑，迷茫，自我懷疑的時(shí)候。如果有這樣的人我也一點(diǎn)都不嫉妒他們。因?yàn)檫@個(gè)階段是你人生中犯錯(cuò)的最好時(shí)候。這階段不是建立社會階層地位的主要時(shí)間段，所以可以盡可能的去做你想做的任何事情。
-2. Honesty. You don't get away with anything. Anything. If you're full of it, people will see that, no matter how vainly you struggle to hide it. The truth has a way of rearing its ugly head, so the sooner you can come to integrity with yourself and the world at large, the sooner you'll be able to get working towards what you really want, who you really want to be. That ugly person you may think you are inside is actually going to be the most compelling, most interesting, most powerful manifestation of yourself.
2.坦誠處世：你不能把任何缺點(diǎn)都甩掉，無論多小的缺點(diǎn)。你有什么缺點(diǎn)，不管你怎么費(fèi)盡心機(jī)的去掩飾它，別人早晚都會發(fā)現(xiàn)的。也許是好事不出門，壞事傳千里。所以你越早的坦誠自己，讓別人隨意的去講自己的缺點(diǎn)，你就會越早的知道自己想要什么，或者想要成為什么樣的人。這樣你會發(fā)現(xiàn)：原本內(nèi)心里最具缺點(diǎn)的那個(gè)自己卻變成了一個(gè)，最吸引人，最有趣，最牛逼的自己。
-3. Health. You also don't get away with self-abuse. Just because you can stay up all night drinking doesn't mean it's not taking its toll on your body. You get a bit older, and you start to meet people in their 30s, 40s, 50s who kept up that lifestyle, and believe me, you don't want to be one of them. Have your fun, but remember: they call it excess for a reason. Eat well (whatever that means to you), get exercise, get enough sleep, and try to have a steady sex life if you possibly can.
3.健康生活：你可能會放縱自己的生活，因?yàn)槟憧梢猿伤薜牟凰X，能喝不代表喝酒對身體就沒有傷害。當(dāng)你再過幾年，會遇到很多30，40，50依然過著放縱生活的人，我敢說，看到他們你不會也想變成那樣的。好好的享受青春時(shí)光，但是要記得，不要過份的消耗自己的身體。規(guī)律飲食（不管自己多忙），經(jīng)常鍛煉，充足睡眠，保持穩(wěn)定的性生活（如果可能的話）。
-4. Having said that, pay close attention to who you find yourself attracted to. They will tell you more about yourself than almost anything else.
4.話又說回來，要盡可能的多與那些跟你走的很近的人交流，他們會讓你更加清晰地認(rèn)識自己是什么樣子的。
-5. Get used to being wrong. Conviction can be a symptom of narrow-mindedness. Chances are, whatever you believe now will be out the window at some point in your future, so get used to being open to other assessments of what's true. Chances are also that someone out there - maybe a lot of someones - knows a lot more about X, Y and Z than you do. Let go of having to be right about things - this isn't a contest. It's not a game. You don't win at life. So say, "Thanks for your perspective. I'll think about that." or "I was wrong. I'm sorry."
5.正視錯(cuò)誤：剛愎自用是性格狹隘的表現(xiàn)。沒準(zhǔn)，將來有一天你會發(fā)現(xiàn)你以前認(rèn)為正確的東西其實(shí)與正確答案相去甚遠(yuǎn)，所以要盡可能的去聽聽別人的議見?；蛟S，外面有很多，很多人在X，Y或Z上比你更懂。誰對誰錯(cuò)沒什么大不了，對錯(cuò)不是比賽，沒有什么輸贏的。就算是比賽你也不能贏一輩子。所以要跟別人說：“謝謝你的觀點(diǎn)，我會好好想想?！被蛘摺皩Σ黄?，我錯(cuò)了?！?/p>
-6. Perseverance. You will fail in life, over and over and over. It won't feel fair. Maybe for decades. You've got to keep moving forward. Keep going. Keep going!
6.堅(jiān)持拼搏：人生中你可能會面對一次又一次的失敗，也許會一直失敗好多年，從而覺著老天對你特別不公平。但是你必須要向前看，一直，一直的向前看。
Oh, and don't forget to have fun along the way! Enjoy any moment you possibly can.
哦，當(dāng)然不能忘記在人生旅途中尋找快樂，同時(shí)盡可能的去享受每一刻。
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